Professional: 3 dimensions of communication

1. The first dimension is the literal message. Be clear in what you say. Do not assume always the other person understands if you omit key things. Explain the right amount of details.

Speak clearly. Observe the situation all around you.

2. The emotional context of the message. What emotions you have when you deliver the message can be positive or negative and bring someone closer or push them away. An eye roll or negate body language or aggressive tone can push someone away opposite of what what said.

How do you feel? What are your feeling you are trying to convey? What do you need? 

What is the request?

3. 3rd dimension evaluates the first two in order to create an emotional safety net within the dialogue. 

First dimension - make sure each statements from each other interchange or the communication is dysfunctional. In other words you may be both be not on the same page.

Is you mis-decode the communication, an acknowledgement / appreciation to have the decoder reconfirm the message to bring back the communications intent. This prevents distrust and distance.

To slow down reactivity: 

How is your partner feeling?

How are you feeling?

What do want to accomplish in your conversation?